A: It's natural for you to have some worries about what sex will feel like the first time after your surgery. And I also can understand that your husband's attention is putting more pressure on you, and so is making it even more likely that you'll encounter a problem, the cause of which might be psychological and not physical — meaning any tenseness you feel could cause you to feel pain that is not related to the surgery. Now, your husband may be saying these things because he wants to give you added confidence and make you understand that he still desires you after your surgery. He may not get that he is putting pressure on you. So what you have to do is tell him what you told me. If it helps you, show him my answer. I agree that starting out with oral sex might make the first time less difficult. But however you do it, make sure he understands that the physical timetable may not match your psychological timetable, and he may need to show some more patience.

Q: Is it possible for a girl to get pregnant if she has sexual intercourse while she is on her period?

A: Yes. It's not very likely, but it's 100 percent possible. The reason is that while a woman's ovaries should not release an egg at that time of the month, sometimes the ovaries don't obey the rules and regulations, and do so anyway. So, while it shouldnhappen, it can.

Q: My boyfriend has not been fully erect during sex for the past month. What does this mean?

A: I can't give you one answer, because there could be lots of different ones. He could be having problems outside the relationship, which are bothering him. There might be a problem within the relationship. He may be masturbating too much. He may be having sex with someone else. The only way to get the actual answer is to speak to him about this. He may be unwilling to talk about it, but be gentle and let him know that you're not being critical or putting pressure on him. Hopefully the two of you can get to the bottom of this, and once you know the cause, it will be easier to find a solution.