A: So you recognize that your "problem" is not really a problem, but rather a crutch that you have decided to use to keep yourself from having success dating women instead of walking on your own two feet. The easiest thing to do, since you recognize what's going on, would be to throw it away, and whenever such thoughts creep into your mind, toss them aside. If you can't do that, then go for some therapy. There's nothing else I can offer you.

Q: I've heard many men with impotence problems say that with this problem, sometimes their penis shrinks. I never believed this, but I'm now suffering with impotence. I have noticed that my penis is smaller than it used to be. I've asked my doctor about this, and all he says is that he does not specialize in that area.

A: A penis needs to have erections in order for there to be good blood flow, so if you are having fewer of them, perhaps this is affecting your penis. That's a guess, as I'm not a urologist, so my advice would be for you to find a new urologist who does know the answer.

Q: I could manually stimulate my girlfriend until my finger shriveled up and fell off, and she would not have an orgasm. She's told me that she has never had an orgasm before, with anyone. I really want to please her. Is there anything I can do to remedy the situation?

A: There may be nothing you can do, but that doesn't mean the situation is hopeless. You see, some women need to learn how to give themselves an orgasm before they can teach their partner. They many need very specific types of stimulation, and until they discover for themselves exactly what is required, they have no way of telling a partner. So my advice is to have her try masturbation by herself. If she can bring herself to orgasm, then I think you two will be on the way to a time when you can give her an orgasm.